Whenever we talk about pain and hurt, we will tend to vision ourselves on how we used to be.
We will relive the darkest episodes of our lives, at times we will shed or even cry buckets of tears.
We are human beings and healing takes longer than just a night of crying. Everyone can feel pain and sadness. Rasulullah was no exception. He felt the most hurt than any of us during his days of prophethood.
But he taught us that being in pain and at the state of hurt is not because we deserve it but because Allah wants to elevate our imaan and that Allah loves us.
I felt pain a long time ago through an abusive marriage. No one knew i was in pain because i didnt show signs of unhappiness. One day, i couldn’t take it anymore and took action.
It was not an easy decision, i have thought long and hard about it.
I would often feel depress as the weight of the world fell on my shoulders. People would be mocking me and blaming me for my divorce.
They would side my ex husband, they would say things that could hurt me and it was never ending. I asked Allah for help because this pain, was too much for me to handle. With HIS MERCY, he turned my heart and my actions towards my faith, towards the deen.
With all this pain, i submit to HIM. I told Allah to forgive me for my mistakes, to take me near HIM. And He did. I believe my pain had a purpose. Allah wanted me to create something beautiful out of this pain.
So i turned it into a platform reaching out to other ladies, a platform of heart to heart sessions called Standby Tissue. And the rest was history.
If you are going through hurt and pain right now, i want you to take a moment to continue reading as i share on how you can confront your emotions. I want you to know that i am here for you and you are not alone and this is temporary.
There are 3 things that we need to learn from our darkest moment. We need to A.C.T on it.
We need to acknowledge our feelings. Face our feelings and do not ignore it. Cry if you must, write it in a journal, take that time to accept your feelings. This way, you are facing your grieve,your sadness, your anger heads on. When we do this, not only are we confronting our feelings, we are also avoiding future melt downs and breakdowns. We cannot deny our feelings as this will haunt us in the future and it will affect our daily lives.
After accepting and facing your own emotions, you need to choose to live beyond that pain. Don’t let the pain drown you and bring you down.
You have to choose to live beyond the hurt that you are feeling by finding happiness in little things. Find happiness in the things you are passionate about, find happiness in your love ones,find happiness in the air that you breathe, find happiness at the sight of beautiful sunsets, the creation that Allah have created for us is not merely a decoration for the dunya, but it is for us to find happiness in it. Allah knows we work, how our body and our heart functions.
He creates happiness around us that we took for granted for. So choose to live beyond the hurt and find happiness in little things dear you.
Turn your pain,hurt and your experience you have into a source of tool that can create a masterpiece. Use your experience, to help others, use your experience to inspire others to live pass their pain.
When you turn something negative into a positive outcome, not only will you benefit other people, but you will help heal the scars inside you. This may take some time but it’s alright. One step at a time.
There is no rush in doing this dear you. One step at a time, slowly but surely. I believe you can do this, at every step of the way, you will find family and friends who will support you during this process.
I need you to believe that everything bad or good that has ever happened to you, is only to make you stronger,wiser and happier. Allah will never test you beyond your limits. You have to believe that HE only wants you to be better in life. HE changes the path that you were on to the right path so that you will not stay lost and misguided. Oh how He loves you,He loves us.
Last but not least, dear you, i want you to start forgiving the people who have hurt you. Not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace. You deserve to attain a peace of mind after the hurt and pain.
By forgiving them, you will leave everything behind and step forward to be a better person than before. When forgiving others, take a moment to forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for the times you let others step on you,bully you and take advantage of you.
Forgive yourself for the times that you almost give up on your life.
Now, live your life for Allah, find your real purpose and always remember this
“To those who have hurt me, you neither my friend nor my foe. You are more than that and only Allah knows”
Take care dear you, I believe you can do this. Allah love you and whenever you feel alone and not love by anyone, know that Allah is there,for HE is always near